About — Stephanie Soma

Hi! I’m Stephanie Soma. I’m here to help humans feel more at home in their bodies.

I’m so glad you’re here.

You’re reading this so I imagine you’re also wanting more satisfying, authentic and intimate relationships. To feel more at choice in the present moment. And more freedom and pleasure in your body. You’re wanting to create the life you actually want to be living—but keep getting stuck in known patterns.

My work explores just that at the intersection of embodiment and relating—or you could say it’s about learning to be human together.

My Story

***Thirteen years ago I had my first Somatic Experiencing session which radically shifted my life.***

I was already an active yoga practitioner but due to unresolved medical trauma in my childhood, I was disembodied and dissociated.
I had a hunch I didn’t inhabit my body as fully as I could, but I didn’t know how to get deeper inside and listen to the messages—**I just had a sense I wasn’t safe in the world.**
Through Somatic Experiencing and somatic therapies, I reconnected to my feelings, to the sensations moving in my body, and released grief and rage that had been deeply locked up inside.
I let go of tension held in my body for decades.
I felt ownership of my body again.
This opened up a new world of possibilities.

For the first time I felt safe in my body and confident to make major life changes I had been previously afraid to make.

I continued to dive deeply into embodiment and healing my nervous system and gained access to a wealth of pleasure, meaning, desires—and capacity to be with pain and discomfort. I learned how to feel safe and respond when I don’t feel safe. I learned how the sensations I experience are actually vital information.

**Most importantly I realized my body was the map to the subconscious beliefs creating my conscious reality.**

Then my journey deepened by learning how to feel safe in my body when relating with others.
**This meant learning how to communicate what was happening inside and ask for what I wanted and needed.**
I began taking the medley of sensations I was newly experiencing and parse them into feelings. I began to identify emotions and started to link those to relational needs that I could ask to be met by others.
This was a radical shift from codependence to interdependence—from people-pleasing to relations where I feel free to say yes and no, can exchange clear and kind communication, reveal my true experience, and experience healthy independence as autonomy.

I continued to align my life with what I was discovering, leaving my successful career in tech development to pursue a life of healing and teaching. I like to think of it as bringing mindfulness technologies to bodies and souls.

My healing work is about creating a safe container so you can activate your own natural healing process.

Your nervous system knows how to heal—it just needs to feel safe to get started. Everything you want and need is already inside of you. The journey is here, now, and in your body.

I’d be honored to guide the way.

~ Stephanie Soma

Professional Bio:

Stephanie Soma Hagemeister is a therapeutic coach, trauma resolution practitioner, relational facilitator and tech consultant. She began her healing career in 2015 as a yoga therapist and Thai massage bodytworker. Before full time healing work, Stephanie was a product manager for tech startups, including fitness technology MIRROR (acquired by Lululemon for $500M). She continues to merge her love of tech and wellness by consulting for innovative technologies and organizations. Most recently she contributed to plant music device PlantWave for Data Garden.